Jacob "Jay" Ellender

April 16, 1942 ~ September 7, 2021

Jacob “Jay” Jerome Ellender passed away on Tuesday, September 7, 2021, at the age of 79.

He was a native of Sulphur, LA, graduating from Sulphur High School in 1961. Jay served his country and was a proud veteran of the United States Army. He was a resident of Moss Bluff for 38 years. As a member of the Masonic Lodge in Moss Bluff and Sulphur, Jay devoted much of his time volunteering for charity events.  He will be remembered for his love of cooking and feeding those in need, especially the elderly and homebound. Jay was declared the Champion of multiple Chili Cookoffs. His snarky sense of humor was matched by no other and will be dearly missed by his family and friends.

Survivors include his son, Michael Kyle and wife, Bridget; his grandson, Barrett Kyle; his sister, Rose Sablatura; and numerous nieces and nephews. Jay is preceded in death by his wife, Jimmie Lynn Barrett Ellender; his parents, Ellis and Alita Ellender; 7 siblings and 8 half siblings.

Visitation will be at First Baptist Church of Carlyss on Wednesday, October 13th, beginning at 9:00 a.m. until a memorial service at 11:00 a.m. The Rev. George Barrett will officiate.

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  1. In love and remembrance of Jay, from back in our Bowen Tools days. He was a wonderful coworker and friend. Praying for his family,
                              Ronnie Miller

  2. With love and remembrance of Jay, from back during Bowen Tools days. A great coworker and friend. Praying for his family.   Ronnie Miller

  3. This story sticks ut in my mind as a true testament to Jay's character. I hope it brings a smile to your face. We met Jay and Jimmie Lynn (before they were married) when we all lived in Town & Country apartments. We all felt like misfits, so we bonded beautifully. Also in the group was the Rowell family, who had a daughter, Cheryl. Cheryl's prom rolled around and she had a double date with a friend of hers. Her friend's date passed out drunk before they ever left for prom. Instantly, Jay jumped into his best suit and stepped in to replace the drunk boy. He was not going to let that girl miss her prom. By all accounts, they had a great time. Jay might have been 30ish at the time. He always looked young, so no one blinked at the arrangement. That was Jay, hopping in to help a perfect stranger on pure principle. I send my condolences to all. May he rest in peace.

  4. Uncle Jacob will be missed. I loved his gumbo he made the day we lost mommy. I was proud of Uncle Jacob being in Army and serving i Japan. I remember the black pedestal bowl of silk fruit he brought home for grandma. We had good times with Uncle Jacob. Mary said to said she will miss him. and giving fruitcake for Christmas to him. Jacob was Mary godfather.

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